A Husband's Top 5 Needs:
Sexual Fulfillment
Recreational Companionship
An Attractive Spouse
Domestic Support
Admiration
A Wife's Top 5 Needs:
Affection
Conversation
Honesty and Openness
Financial Support
Family Commitment
I just wonder how each of us would prioritize our own list.
Mine would be~
~A Godly man
~Respect
~Compassion and understanding
~Affection
~A sense of humor
What are yours?
June 25, 2008
June 20, 2008
Today is my 39th birthday
Sorry if you didnt get my invitation card but its never too late to join us in the celebration.The day is almost over and you can see friends have almost finished the cake and champagne already pop-up;hurry up and join us or if you are too busy or in a far place,cut yours and enjoy my chocolate cake.
June 19, 2008
A Wise (married) Woman
A wise woman doesnt take anything for granted. She is thankful to be loved and seeks to make herself more lovely.
A wise woman doesnt allow herself to be a liability but strives to be an asset to the marriage bond. She looks for ways to make, save, and use money wisely. Her husband knows he is a richer man because she is his wife.
A wise woman seeks to be a part of her husband's life.His interest becomes her interest. She looks for ways to help him in every endeavor in which he is involved. When he needs a helping hand, it is her hand that is there first.
A wise woman knows that his peace of mind (and sometimes, wise understanding) is something she can give or take away by her observations and conversation concerning circumstances or people. She limits her conversation to the positive.
A wise woman sets a joyful mood in the household. She uses laughter, music and happy times to stir the children to a positive, joyful frame of mind. She knows this light-heartedness helps take stress off her husband.
A wise woman gauges her husband's needs. She seeks to fulfill his desires before even he is aware of them. She never leaves him daydreaming outside the home. She supplies his every desire.
A wise woman understands that her husband need to be honored is not based on his performance but on his position.She learns quickly to defer with enthusiasm to his ideas or plans. She looks for ways to reverence him. She knows this is God's will for her life.
A wise woman is not pitiful, puny, or whinny. She seeks to be confident, capable and thankful.
A wise woman does not dream of what could have been. She sees clearly that she is not God's gift to men; thus she is blessed in her present circumstances. She learns to be content.
A wise woman never expects anyone to serve her; therefore she is never disappointed.She is ready to help and a giver.By her example her children learn to serve cheerfully and energetically.
A wise woman doesnt attempt to instruct her husband through feigned questions.Her questions are sincere inquiries concerning his will.
A wise woman is always learning. She is open to change. She is ready to hear.She wants to know. She doesnt cloud her mind with the foolish folly of entertainment.She uses her time wisely.
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A wise woman doesnt allow herself to be a liability but strives to be an asset to the marriage bond. She looks for ways to make, save, and use money wisely. Her husband knows he is a richer man because she is his wife.
A wise woman seeks to be a part of her husband's life.His interest becomes her interest. She looks for ways to help him in every endeavor in which he is involved. When he needs a helping hand, it is her hand that is there first.
A wise woman knows that his peace of mind (and sometimes, wise understanding) is something she can give or take away by her observations and conversation concerning circumstances or people. She limits her conversation to the positive.
A wise woman sets a joyful mood in the household. She uses laughter, music and happy times to stir the children to a positive, joyful frame of mind. She knows this light-heartedness helps take stress off her husband.
A wise woman gauges her husband's needs. She seeks to fulfill his desires before even he is aware of them. She never leaves him daydreaming outside the home. She supplies his every desire.
A wise woman understands that her husband need to be honored is not based on his performance but on his position.She learns quickly to defer with enthusiasm to his ideas or plans. She looks for ways to reverence him. She knows this is God's will for her life.
A wise woman is not pitiful, puny, or whinny. She seeks to be confident, capable and thankful.
A wise woman does not dream of what could have been. She sees clearly that she is not God's gift to men; thus she is blessed in her present circumstances. She learns to be content.
A wise woman never expects anyone to serve her; therefore she is never disappointed.She is ready to help and a giver.By her example her children learn to serve cheerfully and energetically.
A wise woman doesnt attempt to instruct her husband through feigned questions.Her questions are sincere inquiries concerning his will.
A wise woman is always learning. She is open to change. She is ready to hear.She wants to know. She doesnt cloud her mind with the foolish folly of entertainment.She uses her time wisely.
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June 17, 2008
Secrets of Happy Relationship
-Develop a realistic view of committed relationships. Recognize that the crazy infatuation you experienced when your romance was new won’t last. A deeper, richer relationship, and one that should still include romance, will replace it.
-Work on the relationship. An untended garden develops weeds that can ultimately kill even the heartiest plants. And so it is with relationships. It is important to address problems and misunderstandings immediately.
-Spend time together. There is no substitute for shared time. When you make a point of being together, without kids, pets and other interruptions, you will form a bond that will get you through life’s rough spots.
-Make room for “separateness.” Spending time apart is also an important component of a happy relationship. It is healthy to have some separate interests and activities and to come back to the relationship refreshed and ready to share your experiences. Missing your partner helps remind you how important he is to you.
-Make the most of your differences. Stop and think: What most attracted you to your partner at the beginning? I’ll almost guarantee that it was exactly the thing that drives you most insane today. Take a fresh look at these differences. Try to focus on their positive aspects. It’s likely that your differences balance one another out and make you a great team.
-Don’t expect your partner to change; but at the same time give him more of what he wants. If both you and your partner stop trying to change each other, you will eliminate the source of most of your arguments. At the same time, each of you should focus on giving one another more of what you know the other person wants, even if it doesn’t come naturally. If you do both of these things at once you’ve got a winning plan!
-Accept that some problems can’t be solved. There may be issues upon which you cannot agree. Rather than expending wasted energy, agree to disagree, and attempt to compromise or to work around the issue.
-Communicate!! And here is a useful format for doing so, especially when dealing with incendiary topics: Listen to your partner’s position, without interrupting him. When he is finished, summarize what you heard him say. If you can, empathize with him even though you don’t agree.This will take him off the defensive, and make it easier for him to hear your thoughts and feelings. It’s hard to argue when you use this format, and best of all, you may come up with an understanding or a solution.
-Honesty is essential. You may share with your partner the things he doesn’t want to hear. Better this than to have him doubt your honesty. Mistrust is one of the key deal breakers in relationships.
-Respect your partner, and don’t take him for granted. Treating your sweetheart with respect is likely to get you the same in return. And regularly reminding him how much he means to you will enrich your relationship in indescribable ways.
Making these secrets an integral part of your relationship won’t be easy. In fact, your efforts may initially seem like planted seeds that never come -up. If you maintain your efforts, however, you will likely reap what you sow.
-Work on the relationship. An untended garden develops weeds that can ultimately kill even the heartiest plants. And so it is with relationships. It is important to address problems and misunderstandings immediately.
-Spend time together. There is no substitute for shared time. When you make a point of being together, without kids, pets and other interruptions, you will form a bond that will get you through life’s rough spots.
-Make room for “separateness.” Spending time apart is also an important component of a happy relationship. It is healthy to have some separate interests and activities and to come back to the relationship refreshed and ready to share your experiences. Missing your partner helps remind you how important he is to you.
-Make the most of your differences. Stop and think: What most attracted you to your partner at the beginning? I’ll almost guarantee that it was exactly the thing that drives you most insane today. Take a fresh look at these differences. Try to focus on their positive aspects. It’s likely that your differences balance one another out and make you a great team.
-Don’t expect your partner to change; but at the same time give him more of what he wants. If both you and your partner stop trying to change each other, you will eliminate the source of most of your arguments. At the same time, each of you should focus on giving one another more of what you know the other person wants, even if it doesn’t come naturally. If you do both of these things at once you’ve got a winning plan!
-Accept that some problems can’t be solved. There may be issues upon which you cannot agree. Rather than expending wasted energy, agree to disagree, and attempt to compromise or to work around the issue.
-Communicate!! And here is a useful format for doing so, especially when dealing with incendiary topics: Listen to your partner’s position, without interrupting him. When he is finished, summarize what you heard him say. If you can, empathize with him even though you don’t agree.This will take him off the defensive, and make it easier for him to hear your thoughts and feelings. It’s hard to argue when you use this format, and best of all, you may come up with an understanding or a solution.
-Honesty is essential. You may share with your partner the things he doesn’t want to hear. Better this than to have him doubt your honesty. Mistrust is one of the key deal breakers in relationships.
-Respect your partner, and don’t take him for granted. Treating your sweetheart with respect is likely to get you the same in return. And regularly reminding him how much he means to you will enrich your relationship in indescribable ways.
Making these secrets an integral part of your relationship won’t be easy. In fact, your efforts may initially seem like planted seeds that never come -up. If you maintain your efforts, however, you will likely reap what you sow.
June 13, 2008
I Am / I Shall
I am capable.I am worthwhile.
I am beautiful. I am lovable.
I shall accept both my strengths and my weaknesses
for they are me.
I shall never again believe the "lie" that if I make a mistake,
I am a mistake.
My mistakes are the learning tools
that I shall encounter on my life journey.
When I learn from my mistakes, I give them meaning
When I give my mistakes meaning, I can begin to forgive myself,
I can begin to heal.
I shall not use my mistakes as excuses to give up on me...
My mistakes are not me.
I shall seek the wisdom to nurture my heart, mind, body, and soul
so that I may feel more centered, providing an energy reserve…
…that allows me to climb the mountains in my own life
…that allows me to love and support others who are climbing a different mountain
…that allows time for friends, play and the celebration of life.
I shall allow myself to feel capable so that I may seek excellence.
I shall allow myself to feel sadness so that joy may return.
I shall allow myself to feel joy so that I may be revitalized.
I shall allow myself to feel afraid so that I may find courage.
I shall allow myself to feel alone so that I may know me.
I shall allow myself to feel beautiful so that I may feel free.
I shall allow myself to feel lovable so that the loving may seek me.
I shall allow myself to feel pain so that I may heal.
I shall allow myself to feel worthy so that I may fulfill my purpose.
When I am centered, I see the perfection in the world, myself and others.
When I find the world to be imperfect,
I will take responsibility for painting it that way.
I will look into the heart of a rose,
or the eyes of a newborn baby
and again know perfection.
I take responsibility for creating my own life story through the choices I have made.
To blame others is to give away my personal power.
Who will I allow to write the next chapter of my life?
I shall seek the courage to believe in a God who will laugh with me in the sunlight
or cry with me in the darkness.
I shall make a small difference on this planet through the work I do.
When I leave I will have done my share.
I shall live, love, laugh, and learn on my journey.
I am beautiful. I am lovable.
I shall accept both my strengths and my weaknesses
for they are me.
I shall never again believe the "lie" that if I make a mistake,
I am a mistake.
My mistakes are the learning tools
that I shall encounter on my life journey.
When I learn from my mistakes, I give them meaning
When I give my mistakes meaning, I can begin to forgive myself,
I can begin to heal.
I shall not use my mistakes as excuses to give up on me...
My mistakes are not me.
I shall seek the wisdom to nurture my heart, mind, body, and soul
so that I may feel more centered, providing an energy reserve…
…that allows me to climb the mountains in my own life
…that allows me to love and support others who are climbing a different mountain
…that allows time for friends, play and the celebration of life.
I shall allow myself to feel capable so that I may seek excellence.
I shall allow myself to feel sadness so that joy may return.
I shall allow myself to feel joy so that I may be revitalized.
I shall allow myself to feel afraid so that I may find courage.
I shall allow myself to feel alone so that I may know me.
I shall allow myself to feel beautiful so that I may feel free.
I shall allow myself to feel lovable so that the loving may seek me.
I shall allow myself to feel pain so that I may heal.
I shall allow myself to feel worthy so that I may fulfill my purpose.
When I am centered, I see the perfection in the world, myself and others.
When I find the world to be imperfect,
I will take responsibility for painting it that way.
I will look into the heart of a rose,
or the eyes of a newborn baby
and again know perfection.
I take responsibility for creating my own life story through the choices I have made.
To blame others is to give away my personal power.
Who will I allow to write the next chapter of my life?
I shall seek the courage to believe in a God who will laugh with me in the sunlight
or cry with me in the darkness.
I shall make a small difference on this planet through the work I do.
When I leave I will have done my share.
I shall live, love, laugh, and learn on my journey.
June 10, 2008
Who is a hater
A hater is someone who is jealous and envious and spends all their time trying to make you look small so they can look tall. They are very negative people to say the least. Nothing is ever good enough!When you make your mark, you will always attract some haters...That's why you have to be careful with whom you share your blessings and your dreams, because some folk can't handle seeing you blessed...
It's dangerous to be like somebody else... If God wanted you to be like somebody else, He would have given you what He gave them! Right? You never know what people have gone through to get what they have...
The problem I have with haters is that they see my glory, but they don't know my story...
If the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, you can rest assured that the water bill is higher there too! We've all got some haters among us!
Some people envy you because you can:
* Have a relationship with God
* Light up a room when you walk in
* Start your own business
* Tell a man / woman to hit the curb (if he / she isn't about the right thing)
* Raise your children without both parents being in the home
* Haters can't stand to see you happy
* Haters will never want to see you succeed
* Haters never want you to get the victory
Most of our haters are people who are supposed to be on our side. How do you handle your undercover haters?
You can handle these haters by:
1. *Knowing who you are & who your true friends are(VERY IMPORTANT!!)
2. *Having a purpose to your life
3. * Purpose does not mean having a job. You can have a job and still be unfulfilled. A purpose is having a clear sense of what God has called you to be. Your purpose is not defined by what others think about you.
4. *By remembering what you have is by divine prerogative and not human manipulation.
Fulfill your dreams! You only have one life to live...when it’s your time to leave this earth, you 'want' to be able to say, 'I've lived my life and fulfilled 'my' dreams,... Now I'm ready to go HOME!When God gives you favor, you can tell your haters, 'Don't look at me...Look at Who is in charge of me...'Just pray for them, that their life can be as fulfilled as yours! Watch out for Haters....................BUT most of all don't become a HATER
It's dangerous to be like somebody else... If God wanted you to be like somebody else, He would have given you what He gave them! Right? You never know what people have gone through to get what they have...
The problem I have with haters is that they see my glory, but they don't know my story...
If the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, you can rest assured that the water bill is higher there too! We've all got some haters among us!
Some people envy you because you can:
* Have a relationship with God
* Light up a room when you walk in
* Start your own business
* Tell a man / woman to hit the curb (if he / she isn't about the right thing)
* Raise your children without both parents being in the home
* Haters can't stand to see you happy
* Haters will never want to see you succeed
* Haters never want you to get the victory
Most of our haters are people who are supposed to be on our side. How do you handle your undercover haters?
You can handle these haters by:
1. *Knowing who you are & who your true friends are(VERY IMPORTANT!!)
2. *Having a purpose to your life
3. * Purpose does not mean having a job. You can have a job and still be unfulfilled. A purpose is having a clear sense of what God has called you to be. Your purpose is not defined by what others think about you.
4. *By remembering what you have is by divine prerogative and not human manipulation.
Fulfill your dreams! You only have one life to live...when it’s your time to leave this earth, you 'want' to be able to say, 'I've lived my life and fulfilled 'my' dreams,... Now I'm ready to go HOME!When God gives you favor, you can tell your haters, 'Don't look at me...Look at Who is in charge of me...'Just pray for them, that their life can be as fulfilled as yours! Watch out for Haters....................BUT most of all don't become a HATER
June 6, 2008
Temptation
A sister and a friend in my church asked me this question-have you ever been tempted and i tried to explained to her that as human being,we all get tempted now and then but as a child of God,we must know when to seperate fantasy from reality.
In as much as blood still flows in our veins and we still feels,we wil always get attracted but how you handle or comport yourself matters.The fact that we are married does not say when we see fine boy we will not know or when a cool guy guy walks in,we will not acknowledge and feel somehow,its part of life but we must know the boundry.
But the sister no wan gree with all my historic and just say you ve not answered my question and i wonder what she want me to say.My sisters in marriage,can you help please!
In as much as blood still flows in our veins and we still feels,we wil always get attracted but how you handle or comport yourself matters.The fact that we are married does not say when we see fine boy we will not know or when a cool guy guy walks in,we will not acknowledge and feel somehow,its part of life but we must know the boundry.
But the sister no wan gree with all my historic and just say you ve not answered my question and i wonder what she want me to say.My sisters in marriage,can you help please!
June 5, 2008
Moments in Life
There are moments in life when you miss someone so much that you just want to pick them from your dreams and hug them for real!
When the door of happiness closes, another opens;but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one,which has been opened for us.
Don't go for looks; they can deceive.Don't go for wealth; even that fades away.Go for someone who makes you smile,because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright.Find the one that makes your heart smile.
Dream what you want to dream;go where you want to go;be what you want to be,because you have only one life and one chance to do all the thingsyou want to do.
May you have enough happiness to make you sweet,enough trials to make you strong,enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.
The happiest of people don't necessarilyhave the best of everything;they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.
The brightest future will alwaysbe based on a forgotten past;you can't go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.
When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling.Live your life so at the end,you're the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.
Don't count the years-count the memories...........Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take;but by the moments that take our breath away.
When the door of happiness closes, another opens;but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one,which has been opened for us.
Don't go for looks; they can deceive.Don't go for wealth; even that fades away.Go for someone who makes you smile,because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright.Find the one that makes your heart smile.
Dream what you want to dream;go where you want to go;be what you want to be,because you have only one life and one chance to do all the thingsyou want to do.
May you have enough happiness to make you sweet,enough trials to make you strong,enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.
The happiest of people don't necessarilyhave the best of everything;they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.
The brightest future will alwaysbe based on a forgotten past;you can't go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.
When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling.Live your life so at the end,you're the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.
Don't count the years-count the memories...........Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take;but by the moments that take our breath away.
June 2, 2008
Haba, male chauvinistic
The man discovered WEAPONS and invented HUNTING,
the woman discovered HUNTING and invented FURS.
The man discovered COLOURS and invented PAINT,
the woman discovered PAINT and invented MAKEUP.
The man discovered the WORD and invented CONVERSATION,
the woman discovered CONVERSATION and invented GOSSIP.
The man discovered GAMBLING and invented CARDS,
the woman discovered CARDS and invented WITCHERY.
The man discovered AGRICULTURE and invented FOOD,
the woman discovered FOOD and invented DIET.
The man discovered FRIENDSHIP and invented LOVE,
the woman discovered LOVE and invented MARRIAGE.
The man discovered WOMEN and invented SEX,
the woman discovered SEX and invented HEADACHES.
Man discovered TRADING and invented MONEY
Woman discovered MONEY and that's when it all got screwed up
the woman discovered HUNTING and invented FURS.
The man discovered COLOURS and invented PAINT,
the woman discovered PAINT and invented MAKEUP.
The man discovered the WORD and invented CONVERSATION,
the woman discovered CONVERSATION and invented GOSSIP.
The man discovered GAMBLING and invented CARDS,
the woman discovered CARDS and invented WITCHERY.
The man discovered AGRICULTURE and invented FOOD,
the woman discovered FOOD and invented DIET.
The man discovered FRIENDSHIP and invented LOVE,
the woman discovered LOVE and invented MARRIAGE.
The man discovered WOMEN and invented SEX,
the woman discovered SEX and invented HEADACHES.
Man discovered TRADING and invented MONEY
Woman discovered MONEY and that's when it all got screwed up
