November 16, 2007

Why Settle for less

Have you notice the new trend among our ladies,i mean the above 30 with good jobs and good pedigree?they seem to be settling for married guys or being mistress to a big man and remain a kept person for the rest of their life.Iam not moralising because iam married but i just dont buy into it-the lies,double life,humiliation,loneliness etc.Can somebody please tell me why our girls are settling for just anything to belong to a man or the rational for it?

6 comments:

omo-obanta said...

I dunno. I don't think I will settle for less, but I'm still young so I don't know how I will feel in my 30s and single. Society does raise daughters who believe that all their achievements are nothing if they don't have man. There is also that twisted morality in Nigeria(think about it) that allows an older single woman to take whatever she gets without being as looked down on as much as if a younger woman were to do so.

Ever notice how many 30 something year olds have a baby with no husband in sight and noone complaining as much as if they had been 19?

omo-obanta said...

oh and thanks for visiting my blog...

Anonymous said...

I am married . That being said, sometimes you cannot blame these women, after kissing several frogs and getting dumped, some of them have decided, if i am going to lay down with a man, i might as well get something out of it.

CATWALQ a.k.a LAGBA-JESS said...

Culture says that a woman needs a man to be complete.
They have got to the age when everyone thinks they are stale. In moves the married men to feed on their desperation and insecurities.
End of story

meeym said...

Why Settle for less Indeed.
Well, I am on my way there (to 30 that is)and to tell you the truth, I don't get it either.

I've wondered why women put up with alot of things, why they've allowed themselves to be labeled and conveniently stuck in a box, but as you mentioned in one of your posts "the world is their urinal". They get to decide what is and what should be, but what hurts me, is that we, women help them by actually seeing and doing things their way. Letting what they deem our roles are dictate how we live and yes, settling for less.

rethots said...

Unfortunately, however, my take....maybe they seem to see the man completing them -a great problem; rather than see the man complimenting them & vice-versa.

Think 'tis high time a few good (wo)men stood up (without fear or feeling inferior) to the fact that they will not settle for less (come what may).
And then, this i believe will cause a ripple effect....eventually women (& all) will realise, you can always find what you want for a partner. It takes patience, unwavering hope.