August 21, 2007

Top Marriage Mistakes

Lack of RespectDon't badmouth your spouse to your friends or associates. Spouses need to be thanked. They need to know they are appreciated.

Not Listening to Your Spouse
This includes allowing your mind to wander, paying more attention to the computer or television set, ignoring body language, and interrupting.

Lack of Sexual IntimacyThis is a death knell for a marriage. Seek medical counsel and therapeutic counseling if necessary. Don't leave your spouse wondering why you aren't interested in sex

Always Having to Be RightThis includes lecturing your mate, or having to have the last word. Very few people can love a know-it-all forever. Admit once in awhile that you made a mistake or that you don't have all the answers. Don't answer every simple question with a long-winded dissertion on the topic.

Not Walking the TalkActions do speak louder than words. When you say you'll do something, do it. When you say you won't do something, follow through.

DishonestyHaving lies and secrets in your relationship can create distance and lack of trust between the two of you.

Being Annoying
This includes continuing to have gross personal hygiene habits, or always being late, or nitpicking everything your spouse does, etc. It is when you know you are annoying and you continue to annoy.

Being Selfish or GreedyThis is when you spend money on yourself, but makes a big deal if your spouse spends a dime. This is not wanting to open your home to friends and family because you prefer to be alone and don't want the hassle of entertaining. This is hogging the remote, only going to cheap restaurants when you could afford better, or not watching movies your spouse wants to see.

Having Temper Tantrums
Every couple needs to be able to handle conflict in a constructive way. Having an angry outburst so that you can win an argument will make you the loser in the end.

Do you agree with these?


Bola said...

I agree with you, if all married couples could learn to avoid these mistakes,I think divorce laywers would have been forced to look for alternative means of survival.
Thanks for the visit.I love blogs that talk about marriage,such are must visit for me.I have lost two good friends to divorce.There is nothing like a happy marriage.Pls keep up the good work.

4real said...

Hunnnnnnnnn. With all these outlines given day by day, our youths have still not learnt any lesson to make them avoid similar mistakes our ancestors made in time past. Yet, they are all ready to run after a rich man who has a wife in USA another one in Uk another one in Ibadan who tells them he doesn't have a girlfriend not to talk of wives.Good work Naijawife.Ride on with different topics. I dey gbadun e