February 12, 2007

Why would a man who profess love to his wife be beating her and is there some abominable traits in us that makes men believe that the only way to quell it,is to beat us?Men who beat can not be regarded as real men as men who beat feel their ego and masculinity is being threatened and as such they must subdue us by proofing their physical superiority.I got to my folks place to picked my kids on friday and met one of their tenant beating his wife and this is a man that i so much respect and he appears gentle to me and the wife-very respectful and comport herself well,she was just shouting kill me kill me.I couldnt stomach the public disgrace and had to beg the young lady to leave the man and she was just saying aunty can you imagine after 4 kids in four years,he still want me to have another baby this year and i was just saying my doctor says i should not kill myself and should rest and he just slapped me and that where was the doctor when he was paying the brideprice and God,i lost all the respect i had for him.Some men dont have regard and respect for us and the patriarchial societies pretend to care but actually see us as mere possessions,often as little more than children to be whipped or punished when they get out of line.Yes,we should try as much as possible not to incur the wrath of our husbands but it takes two to tango.I heard of a man who beat his wife routinely and such beating always land her in hospital and the kids always witnessed this abuse,when the kids become adults,they picked their mother from hospital one day and informed her that she was not going back to their father's house.They were tired even if she was not.The woman claimed she stayed because of the kids and i asked myself why do we women always claimed is for our kids and we are subjected to physical,mental and emotional torture or we so much lack the courage to make the needed change or bound by fear of the unknown,poverty,loss of finance,rejection by society,pity from others,loss of status and loneliness?we just want to remain mrs somebody at all cost at the expense of our life.

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

l think men beating their wives is something passed on from their fathers.it is so sad that in 2007 we still have husbands beating their wives.That is why anytime l have any kind of argument,l talk to my boys about it,in a way they will understand.

heavymummy said...

Maybe you should ask yourself the same question. The evil cycle of such behaviour is normally learnt at an early age at home.Both physical and mental abuse.I suggest you watch "Dr Phil" if you want to know more about the legacy we pass on to our kids. Perhaps you will see reason.

concernedmother said...

Thank you oh! Do you hear that? Sherri/Emi the advisor? think twice oh!

Muriel said...

Keep up the good work.