January 15, 2007

How do i start and from where?I guess i should introduce myself:Iam a working mother of four-three boys and a girl,married to a famous writer and well known for his intellect.He is a lecturer,a PR man,Public speaker,he is an authority in his field-Public Relation.My kids age ranges from fourteen to four and two are already in secondary school.

Everything look good and everybody see me as having everything going on from outside but iam just fed up with my marriage but have no gut to walk out.I have too many things at stake-my kids,public perception and dont forget Africa belief is to endure marriage for the sake of kids and your feelings have nothing to do with this,your mother tells you other women get worst treatment and they still stay married and they do not want you to embarrass them by leaving your marriage but to stay put at any cost.

I want to use my blog to connect with women and men who belief in marriage and are ready to make sacrifices to make it work and understand that women are not cartel that can be bought and use as you like.We are human too and should be respected

5 comments:

Anonymous said...

Your mum has told you all it takes to have a happy home! You can not have two HODs in the same department. Someone has to wear the crown. Submission does not mean SLAVERY but when women start equating themselves with men, then, they are toying with their marriages. He is the man of house, he toils for the family, he constantly thinks about the progress of his family, he takes all shits at work, etc etc. Women know how to make their homes a happy one but some of them choose to do otherwise. IF YOU ARE TIRED OF YOUR MARRIAGE: WALK OUT OF IT!

Nijawife said...

I guess you are a man and thats why you can only see issues as competition between men and women.Capital NO,i give my man all his respect and will ever be the head and no contest about that.What we are saying is attitude to women and how our culture and orientation made men belief they can always give us shit and we must swallow it and say thank you.Walking out of marriage when my bible says till death do part.

Refinedone said...

Nijawife ..I have alot to say to you if you would contact me.. Thanks.. and I will be praying for you...

Anonymous...I am not a Man basher.. but your comment was so un helpful...

I am married and have no problem with my huband being the head... that how God says it should be and I expect it... that does not mean you mistreat another..especialy you wife and mother of you children.

someone has to wear the crown you say...dont you know she is his crown..as head he has a responsiblity to God... he should be his wife's cover, protector ...not dictator and aggessor...

The bible tell's the woman to respect her husband... and the man to LOVE his wife like the head of the church ( Christ) loves the church...

so I think you should try and be balanced in your views...

There are always two sides to the story...we have the wife's story ... so advice her.

before God man and woman are equal.

MosesK said...

I will advice that you increase your level of submission unto your husband, so that by your conduct you can transform your husband into the type of man you want him to be. Also, be more prayerful (not like the Pharisees who pray so that people will know they pray, but make your suplication known to your heavenly father and things will change for the better for you in Jesus name).

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