is there conspiracy on women in blogville?dont mind me,they are written by women as well.Most of the blogs i read this week has something to do with infidelity and how some women are disgracing womanhood and how their men though they are not saint are outsmarting them by lacing dangerous juju on them.Iam not here to defend what is indefensable as its clearly stated in the bible that do not commit adulatery.We women need to talk to ourselves-yes,men are giving us a rough ride and they never appreciate us but that does not justify that act.Iam there and know how it feels when you are called all kind of derogative names,humiliated and insulted in the presence of everybody and he is a just a husband by name but despite all that he is the only one you can lay claim to as belonging to you even if he is a beast(sorry)and dont forget you are still under his roof and bear his name.I quite know that its challeging and takes the grace of God not to give face to anybody who says nice things to you and make you look like a queen but remember he can not be the father of your kids and it can only remain illicit affair and why do you want to go through what if of the mess.If your marriage is not working and the man turn you to furniture in the house and your body cant hold-take a walk and move on with your life.We all get tempted here and there but we must know when you say NO and RUN away from the devil.

For men out there who think the best way to deal with a wayward woman is to lace her with magun,just remember vegeance is for God and not you,recall what happen in the bible and remember that woman who everybody wanted to stone and how our lord settle the matter-are you yourself innocent and how many other people wife are you chopping,everything in life follow the law of karma.Its better to send her packing when caught than dragging your kids into all that mess,dont forget there is no way it wouldnt affect them-the kids of the adulterous woman.Our lord and master,please temper justice with mercy o,abi what do you feel?

God has a way of making impossibility possible.This is my third week in my new place of work and the good lord who started the journey is perfecting it.It was a tug of war between my husband and I,when i told him i will take the offer.He was not against the change of job perse but refused to make the job and home management easier for me and i was like we were in this business together and we must sit down to iron out the logistics,he refused saying its my responsibility as a wife to do all the house work,take care of his home and kids which i have no problem with but my new job require an assistant as i can not combine going to Apapa and doing school runs together.I used all the tricks any woman can use to get her husband but the man go enjoy me to the fullest but still refuse to yield to my pleading and me no say i no go kill myself bcos i wan continue to be good wife and kill myself with stress,afterall when the salary come,na all of us go enjoy whether directly or indirectly and he is not favourable to my not working,so i decided to do roforofo with him.Iam ordinarily a domicile person,i dont argue with him bcos i know i cant win the battle and will just do whatever he want but my head just tash and i said what a hell-this nonsense must stop and God forgive me,i did not even care again if it cost me my marriage.My father talked to him on the need for us to get somebody to assist and he always tell him no problem but anytime i asked him what we should do,he will just say not my business and i should not bring stranger to his house.I woke up very early my first day in my new place and ensure the kids are okay and prepare their breakfast and just left the house for him as he doesnt have to leave home early,he can work from the house if he want.I wasnt okay with that plan but i must do it as i cant continue to suffer myself even the bible says that a man must lighten the burden and proctect his wife at all time(I hope i have not quoted bible out of context)


To be continue

Iam just bored not really doing much work in the office as the Government refuse to see us(bankers)as citizens as i cant understand why the holiday have to exclude us,we must surely sue them for not allowing us to travel to our various villages to excercise our civic responsibility and trust,the employers to capitalise on that and force us to come to office and now,we are here but just attending to very few customers and using their time to check all my favourite blogs.Nigers are really making impact in the blog world.I saw this on bibi blog and i copied it.How do i answer all these honestly and i dont even to know whether my joblessness is doing this to me,i will try to answer them:

1. Yourself:Funny
2. Your partner:Intelligent
3. Your hair:Kinky
4. Your mother: Old school
5. Your father: Thank God for him
6. Your favorite item:Book
7. Your dream last night:My husband finally agreed that i should go for further studies
8. Your favorite drink:Lemon
9. Your dream car:Landcruiser
10. The room you are in:okay
11. Your ex:Wish him well
12. Your fear:Failure
13. What you want to be in 10 years:Governor of central bank
14. Who you hung out with last night:none
15. What you're not:dull
16. Muffins: Tasty
17: One of your wish list items:best mother
18: Time: Precise
19. The last thing you did: Surf
20. What you are wearing: Shirt and shirt
21. Your favorite weather: Summer
22. Your favorite book:Biography
23. The last thing you ate: Rice
24. Your life:Could be better
25. Your mood:Ever cheerful
26. Your best friend:Buddy
27. What you're thinking about right now:life
28. Your car:Honda
29. What you are doing at the moment:Writting
30. Your summer:Interesting
31. Your relationship status:Married
32. What is on your TV:dont know
33. What is the weather like: Okay
34. When was the last time you laughed:Now

So i could answer this honestly without any hesitation

What do we need to do for men to give us chance/space in this country.I was expecting that the men will give our women chance to rule this time around,with the way our women show interest in politics and their commitment but the outcome of last saturday selection is not encouraging.I was telling my husband the other day why women should be given chance and voted for,as we are born leader and can perform better if given the opportunity and that the way we run our homes in an organise manner should prove that we are created in such a way that to manage men and human resources effectively and efficiently will not be a problem to us.The man just allowed me to finished my campaign and laughed,he said its really nice to see women aspiring to be Governors but we must know that all those theory ended in belgin and face the reality.He claimed that our society has not developed to that stage that men will handle over the affair of the country to a mere woman like that and that in any case,in theory,they supported it but the reality on ground is that she can not even count on the vote of her in-law not to talk of other men-imagine that in this century when women are going places in their field and who says we are only good as home keepers and baby making factory.Its time our men knows that the world is changing and women can also be decision makers with their support and afterall,they share the glory as the woman bear their name.Iam not about women liberation but women support in all endeavours.

What do marriedwomen want from their husband

I was just tossing on my bed till day break as i could not sleep but thinking of a lot of things concerning my life and fellow married women.I was at the salon earlier in the day and chance on a discussion among the women i met there though i pretended as if i wasnt listening to them but somehow, i learnt from their discussion,you can guess that na men palaver.The cheerleader among them was telling them how men are cunning and heartless and that it takes wisdom and programming?to deal with them.She narracted how her husband is always broke when it comes to the family but always generous to outsiders,she said she now help herself by tapping his money and since he does not have,he will never asked her if his money is missing.Another one says her husband is generous but his problem is not been able to close his eyes when it comes to women and that for him,anything in skirt goes and now what she does is to ensure that she embarrass him by putting condom everywhere to remind him of HIV.The one that wasnt funny was the case of a lady that says her husband just like embarrasing her atwill and in the presence of just anybody to proof that he is in charge but she says na him cup of tea as she know how she manage him and she get whatever she want from him and if it takes her to be daft to enjoy her marriage,so be it!As i was going through this on my head and i just asked myself what do we want as wife from our husband?For me:

-To love me with my but and is
-To respect and honour me in all ways
-To be faithful and loyal to me
-To encourage me to get to my potentials
-To see me as a part of him
-To care for me and my kids
-To talk to me and be there for the family

Do you think iam dreaming or asking for too much?over to you-what do you want from your wife/husband

Happy new month,it shall be well with us all in jesus name and God will continue to meet us at our point of our needs.The last one week have been full of challenges of life that i cant even think of updating my blog but i thank God for his mercies.Despite all the odds against me and plan of devil,Iam now working in Apapa though its quite a challenge and devil is at work but i made the decision with the mind that God will perfect everything for me.I leave you with this poem:


I sometimes find I'm drifting
Through this life without effect;
I often wonder if I'm truly
Worth what I've been blessed.

I search through days that have been hard,
To try to understand,
The many trials that I have known,
The life that I have had.

You see me in my daily grind,
So confident and strong;
Yet when I am alone, I question
Just where I belong.

I often try too hard I find,
To analyze and guess,
To scrutinize, investigate
My life I will confess.

For somewhere deeper, there must be
Some meaning to this life,
Some way to make a difference,
Give a reason for this strife.

Is there some hidden meaning?
Some agenda to be found?
A greater purpose waiting
If I care to hang around?

It teases and it taunts me,
Always slightly out of sight;
A hazy vision out of reach,
Where darkness hides the light.

I struggle to bring clarity
To what awaits me there,
And yet this weak illusion
Always fades before my stare.

It seems the harder that I try,
To focus through the haze,
Just serves to add more questions,
Through my endless, tired gaze.

Perhaps I'm trying just too hard,
To understand it all,
For can we ever truly know
Just what we have in store?

Each incident, each moment passed,
Just adds upon the next,
But in the end, will I find truth ...
Or will I be perplexed?

Perhaps I make it harder
Than it has to be sometimes,
But will my searching bring to me
My meaning over time?

Or will it leave me broken,
And confused as I feel now,
While questions bring no solitude,
To this, my wrinkled brow.

by Kit McCallum